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Limerence and all that….

In 1979, Dorothy Tennov coined the term “limerence” for the first stage of love, characterized by physical symptoms (flushing, trembling, palpitations), excitement, intrusive thinking, obsession, fantasy, sexual excitement, and the fear of rejection.

I was reminded of the word today morning as this song popped into my mind out of the blue on a cool morning. The unforeseen combination of extra clinical work, walks with Simba, the innovation I had to bring to bear in uploading the audio recording of my last AIR FM Gold program and rereading the post, editing it meant my post that was to be posted in the morning, actually went through only yesterday evening. When I woke up today, there was a distinct nip in the morning air. A light fog also raised the distinct possibility that an early winter might be around the corner.

The movie made by Harnam Singh Rawail based on his own story is called Pocket Maar, rather disingenuously. It has an interesting pairing of Dev Anand and Geeta Bali with Nadira and a few others in significant but smaller roles. The story by HS Rawail revolves around Dev Anand, a pickpocket who feels a pang of guilt (dollops of it, actually) in seeing his victim commit suicide, and trying to sublimate the pain and guilt by trying to take care of the family, as something of a good samaritan. Between that struggle with the self imposed duties and the fear of being exposed as being responsible for their misery, he manages to flip head over heels for Geeta Bali (who while not being a stunning/ravishing beauty, had plenty of charm and is best described as vivacious) & even goes into the sea on a fisherman’s trawler to profess his love.

The song is a beautiful duet between Lata Mangeshkar in her mid 20s and truly on song, and Talat Mahmood (I actually love his rare happy songs). The song conveys the effervescent joy that bubbles up to the surface for both the protagonists in a mutual declaration of affection. Madan Mohan conjures up a dulcet, treacly sweet composition and makes the song truly unforgettable… It is tough to think of the song as being almost seventy years old.. https://youtu.be/6jVdfGM6Kss

Monochrome photography adds a very different dimension of sharpness and beauty. Dev Anand tries to speak like Raj Kapoor in “chaste” Bambaiya Hindi (if at all there could be such a characterization of the distorted lingo) and Geeta Bali pretends to be dozing off. A wonderful melody depicting the first overpowering flush of love. https://youtu.be/QETD8W_zJeM

The lyrics by Rajinder Krishan are so simple to understand. The beauty of unadorned language with completely clear communication of the depth of one’s feelings aptly conveyed.

ये नयी नयी प्रीत है
तू ही तो मेरा मीत है
न जाने कोई सजना
ये तेरी मेरी दास्ताँ
समाँ है ये प्यार का नए इक़रार का
न हो कोई जहाँ,
बना ले वही आशियाँ
ये नयी नयी प्रीत है

नजर तुमसे मिली ऐसे
के हम शरमा गए
पुकारा जब तेरे दिल ने
तो फिर हम आ गए
नजर तुमसे मिली ऐसे
के हम शरमा गए
पुकारा जब तेरे दिल ने
तो फिर हम आ गए
कसम तुम्हें प्यार की
इसी इक़रार की
न जाने कोई सजना
ये तेरी मेरी दास्ताँ
समाँ है ये प्यार का

निगाहों ही निगाहों में
कहो क्या कर दिया
मेरे दामन को फूलों से
ये किसने भर दिया
निगाहों ही निगाहों में
कहो क्या कर दिया
मेरे दामन को फूलों से
ये किसने भर दिया….
चलो चल दे वह
ज़मीन और आसमाँ
गले मिलते जहा
बना ले वही आशियाँ
ये नयी नयी प्रीत है
तू ही तो मेरा मीत है
न जाने कोई साजना
ये तेरी मेरी दास्ताँ
समाँ है ये प्यार का
नए इक़रार का
न हो कोई जहाँ
बना ले वही आशियाँ
ये नयी नयी प्रीत है……

Stay safe, folks, stay healthy and happy, stay away from the Chinese malice. Take the jab if you’ve not done so as India crosses 1 Billion jabs.

By abchandorkar

Consultant Interventional Cardiologist, Pune, India

12 replies on “Limerence and all that….”

Madan Mohan conjures up a dulcet, treacly, sweet composition……..
Sincere salute to your polished vocabulary sir.
About the song … though I probably heard it for the first time, I am already whistling the tune, and my father, 87 yrs, immediately recognized the song.

Thanks for the beautiful post sir.

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Amazing song.. Though heard for first time but like it very much… Doctor I must appreciate that you have such a wonderful knowledge of songs their history, about the actors but also have a wonderful Dey of words to express it so beautifully. I really spend good time to read what you have written n listening to the song… Great collection of talent in you

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